Why our happiness is temporary?
Why our happiness is temporary? Why can’t we stay happy and content at all the times? These are some common questions often asked to our own self, whenever we feel low and depressed in life. The answer to these questions might surprise you with its simplicity, as the true nature of happiness lies in the simplicity itself. Happiness is not any kind of complex equation which needs to be solved to attain an absolute answer; it is only human to find it among the complexities.
How do we measure our ‘Happiness’?
Happiness is also an emotion. Similar to other emotions, it is an absolute term. It cannot be felt partially. Either someone is happy or ‘is not’. Although happiness is an emotion and emotions surely can’t be measured, but same can’t be said for happiness. We surely can measure it. The method to measure our happiness works upon the measurement of the time, it lasts. That is how we set limit to our happiness.
Instead of feeling happy in the moment, our minds are occupied in conserving happiness into what we call as ‘memories’.
Unfortunately, whenever we talk about happiness, we consider it and desire for ‘eternal happiness’. Now here I must say that the idea of eternal happiness is totally different from our idea of happiness. The question arises here that what is eternal happiness? Before answering that question that, one must know that “What is eternity”? Eternity is the unit of time where past and future doesn’t exist. However when we try to integrate the moments in our life, we equate it in a mathematical fashion. Our minds are continuously busy with trying to catch up the changing pace of Nature.
As I said above, Happiness is a mere emotion which can only be experienced and further extending this statement, I am able to say that, ‘Eternal happiness is a state where a person’s mind is fully submerged into the ocean of happiness; where the rays of time, causation and impermanence can’t reach him at that moment’. Don’t fool yourself by thinking that you can sustain a single kind of emotion throughout your life. Those kinds of cravings in our thought process only give birth to theories, which we call as Heaven and Hell.
As I have mentioned above that by measuring through Time, we always measure our happiness; so what would happen if we somehow remove the ‘presence of time’ from our happiness? What would happen if we are able to stay in a state of bliss and content at all the times? Of course, we would attain a state of eternal happiness. We all know that when our happiness extends through longer duration of times, we consider it as a larger amount of happiness and vice versa.
The definition of happiness is that whenever our desires are fulfilled, we feel happy.
Happiness can be obtained through many ways. An achievement always comes with a sense of happiness. A sense of affection towards someone always comes along with a sense of happiness. In reality, happiness demands little to no efforts. We always remember our childhood because of this particular reason. A child’s life is full if abundance because of his less complex perception towards life.
Happiness with an innocence is the reason why we miss our childhood.
Everyone stays happy at all the times in their childhood. There are no talks about spirituality or wisdom or meditation. A child is happy because it is in his nature to absorb the surroundings. He teaches us that happiness requires no efforts at all. Just look at a child. He is least bothered about the scarcity and deficiencies in the life of an adult. A child’s life is full of abundance only because he knows that happiness is timeless. He stays happy in the moment and when it vanishes he instantly moves on towards any other activity; without any complaints or without any attachments towards the past.
While an adult fails to realize this simple truth of life that our growing desires are also raising up the bar of happiness for us. Look at ourselves, if someone has a bicycle, he craves for a motorcycle or a car or even a plane. The desires are endless and when one attains it, the time simply shifts to the next moment, leaving us on the face of impermanence.